Instead, we should be asking ourselves "What does God require of me?" or "What do I need to do in order to be Holy?"
"For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit." I Thessalonians 4:7-8
God gave us a full set of instructions to live by so we should just stop trying to create our own and live by His. The reward is definitely worth it.